Social Anxiety Disorder is real, it’s painful and it can be deadly. I’ve struggled with symptoms all my life, but starting taking positive steps 15 years ago.
Now I live a happy, fulfilled life and you can too.
About Social Anxiety
Information and resources about the disorder.
What is Social Anxiety?
Social anxiety is the fear of being judged and evaluated by other people which evokes negative emotions and self-consciousness. It can lead to social avoidance which impacts a person’s soft skill development, ability to develop relationships and self-worth.
Do I have it?
Social anxiety disorder is the third largest mental health care problem and is much more common than past estimates lead us to believe. About 13% of people will experience some sort of social anxiety during their lifetime.
People with social anxiety disorder can experience an emotional distress which evokes a fight, flight, freeze response in many different social situations.
- Being around strangers.
- Feeling criticized.
- Being the center of attention.
- Meeting people considered authority figures or important.
- Talking about themselves.
- Confronting others or being confronted about a behavior.
SAD in technology fields
Sometimes dealing with computers is easier than dealing with computers. Computer don’t judge us. They either work or they don’t.
People who avoid social situations might be more inclined to enter a technology field because it’s perceived as a “safe” place where you don’t have to interact with people.
However, every field and every career benefits from being able to work collaboratively with others.
Getting over social anxiety is not easy and there are no magic bullets. Think of it as refactoring a massive legacy system where it’s impractical to just rip out the data center and start from a greenfield. It takes time to identify specific triggers and responses. It takes more time to practice behavioral therapy techniques to change your response patterns.
More than anything, educate yourself and work to be more self-aware. Know that you aren’t alone and that you can improve your situation. If you need to, find a therapist and work through a program.
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